Worst Reasons to Marry and Why

There are always many reasons people decide to marry. The number one reason is for love. Sometimes, unfortunately, we don't always look before we leap. Getting married for the wrong reasons can lead to an unfullfilling life long relationship that can end in emotional disaster for both parties. Thinking of getting married? Make sure your number one reason to do so doesn't involve one of these.

8 really good reasons NOT to get married and why.

1. Because she's already pregnant/ you already have kids together. If there wasn't enough forethought about a committed relationship before the baby, why would having a baby change that? Having a child doesn't make anyone more committed or sincere than they already are, and the financial and emotional issues that having a child involves may be hurdles that neither one of you are ready to face if you can't even face each other at the alter.

2. Money/ benefits. Live in relationships often aren't privy to health/life insurance, survivors benefits etc. If you can't commit to each other without the benefits from the government and company benefits that are afforded to married couples, why would you commit just to get them? Having financial stability is a great thing, but what about your emotions? Do you honestly think you won't resent each other later if you only got married to be financially stable? What happens when there isn't anymore money? Good marriages are built to withstand the good and bad times, not just enjoy the good times together.

3. Because your not getting any younger. Why would you want to be in a life long relationship with someone just because you think no one else will want you because of your age? Being a spring chicken has its benefits, but having a little life experience under your belt can be quite useful in the future. Maturity in a marriage is anything but unhealthy.

4. Because he/she will change once we're married. This is probably the oldest romantic notion on the books. If he/she hasn't changed before now, they aren't going to change because a piece of paper says they should. People are who they are, they don't change unless they want to, and even then, it takes years to break an established pattern of behavior even with the most desiring willpower. Think about how hard it is to quit smoking then multiply that by 10. That's how hard it is for someone to change even if they want to.

5. Because other people think you should. Other people think its really cool to jump off bridges with nothing but a rope attached to their ankles too.

6. For religious reasons. If your partner can't respect your religious beliefs well enough to wait for you to decide if you want to be committed to them for life before you do the nasty or what ever else it is that your religious beliefs may prohibit before marriage, why would they will respect your beliefs AFTER your married?

7. Sex. Lot's of people do this without being married. Sex is a wonderful side effect of marriage but it's not the end all and be all of a healthy relationship. Your libidos may be overworked at 22, but at 75 you will still have to look each other in the eye and find each other desirable. Can you do that?

8. Jealousy. If you are jealous of your partners friends or other relationships so much that you think getting married will get rid of them, you don't need a marriage license, you need psychological counseling. Getting married does not cause people to give up life long friendships or family relationships, and it's not fair to ask your partner to do so. Yes, you should be first in their life, but if your not already first, getting married will not make it so.