Writing a Sympathy Card

Often when someone dies, finding words to express feelings about the death and to comfort loved ones is difficult. However, a sympathy card can provide some comfort and is appreciated by loved ones. Keep the card short and focused on expressing your condolences. Send the card shortly after the death. If you learn of the death later or are unable to write right away, sending a card later is acceptable. Write the card in a gentle way keeping in my the sensitive feelings directly following a death.

Step 1

Hand write a letter on stationary or on a card. Cards for sympathy specifically are available in most card sections. If you're religious and know that the family is religious, you can pick a card with a bible verse or saying. Email is acceptable but not preferred because sending a card is more personable and sometimes the family keeps the cards as a remembrance.

Step 2

Write in blue or black ink for clarity. Write the receiver's first and last name with proper salutation, such as "Mr" or "Mrs" on the outside. If you know the person, but not the family, write to the closest relative, a spouse, child or parent.

Step 3

Write "Dear" and the person's first name you are writing. Explain who you are if you aren't close. For example, if you're a friend of the deceased or a co-worker, explain that relationship.

Step 4

Express your condolences. For example, write that you are sorry for the family's loss. You can also include a story or memory of the loved one, one but make sure to avoid stories of conflict or embarrassing stories of the deceased person.

Step 5

Write a sentence or two explaining how you can help the family if you're willing and able. Write specific ways you can help like cooking meals, watching children or going through the deceased person's belongings.

Step 6

Close the letter with a phrase like, "My sincere sympathy" or "Thinking of you." Sign your name and the names of your spouse and children if the card is from all of you.

Skill
Moderate

Things You'll Need
Stationary
Pen with blue or black ink
Envelope

Stamp Tips
Do not write that the death is for the best or that the family will get over it.
Do not write about yourself or current events in your life.
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