Yes or No: Should You Support Your Husband Unconditionally?

Stephanie Modkins
After U.S. Representative Anthony Weiner admitted to sending racy pictures via Twitter to women, the public took notice that his wife was not by his side. Unlike her predecessors in similar situations, she has been allowing him to take on the burden of his scandal alone. Is she right or wrong?

The answer to this question is tricky. Should you support your husband unconditionally? Your decision depends on several factors. Below are three scenarios for a 'yes' and 'no' answer.

Yes, you should support your husband unconditionally if . . .

You're an old couple. You have been together for more than 20 years. In your eyes, this scandal is just another bump in the road. You have no plans of leaving your mate, regardless of the outcome.

He's wrongly accused. You know for a fact that your mate is the victim of a well-executed lie. He's no angel, but he's not the devil the accuser is making him out to be. For this reason, you want to back him.

Public scrutiny is okay. You don't mind being under the judgment of others. You're made of steel. You believe a little ostracism never hurt anyone, especially when it comes from people who don't pay your bills or hold you tight at night.

No, you shouldn't support your husband unconditionally if . . .

You are a newly wed. You barely have a tan line from your wedding ring. You realize now that your spouse pulled a Jekyll and Hyde routine on you. He's DEFINITELY not the man you thought you married and you have been considering leaving him.

Your spouse is guilty. Sadly, you know your husband is guilty. His crime is one that's hard to stomach - even as his wife. Although you love him, you don't feel right supporting him through a scandal brought on by his own misdeeds. You have already explained your position to him and he understands.

You're an emotional wreck. You already have a weak constitution. Your husband's scandal has made it worse. You can't eat, sleep or function. You hate the way others are treating you and your children. All you can do now is keep daily affairs afloat, which doesn't include extra duties involving the support of your husband.

The above scenarios can help you determine how far to go in supporting your spouse. Whatever you decide should be a decision that won't keep you up at night or affect your future in a way that you are unable to handle.

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Published by Stephanie Modkins

Stephanie M. is a freelance writer who lives in the northwest. Her main goal is to write in a way that entertains, educates or uplifts readers.  View profile

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  • mtrent258/8/2011

    It depends on the circumstances of his actions

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