You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Be a Role Model for Your Kids

Some people are the epitome of good parenting and healthy living. They eat right, exercise, have solid marriages, impressive work ethics and make wise and responsible choices. They stay abreast of all the current research on effective parenting and routinely implement strategies for success. And while they are not perfect human beings, it certainly appears that way to those around them who struggle with issues such as bad relationships, addictions, anger management and financial struggles.

If this sounds absolutely nothing like you, join the club! While we may want to set a good example for our children, as human beings we all struggle with our own shortcomings - some of us more than others. And as our children become old enough to notice and point out our imperfections, we may feel as though we have failed to be the kind of role models that they need in life.

However, one of the greatest blessings in being a parent - whether your children are biologically yours or have become yours through marriage or adoption - is that even with all of your flaws, you still have an opportunity to be one of the greatest teachers your children will ever have in their lifetime. You don't have to be a near-perfect person in order to be a role model for them. You have the power to teach them by example that people can grow, overcome adversity, and learn from their own mistakes.

If you find this hard to believe, just listen to what other adults have to say about their parents. You may end up being greatly enlightened by what you hear. Yes, there are the occasional "My parents have been married for 65 years and have never had an argument" testimonials that some people take it upon themselves to share with whomever will listen. Then there are also adults who can't seem to find anything good to say about their parents. But I have heard far more compelling statements such as "My mother went back to school and got her degree after my parents divorced," or "My father has been sober for the past 10 years." And oftentimes, statements such as these are made with great pride.

Your child may not describe you as a role model to others, but that doesn't mean that you aren't in their eyes. Most children recognize and appreciate growth in their parents and are inspired by this on one level or another. It lets them know that not only do they not have to be perfect, but they can and should always work toward their own personal growth.

As parents, we become role models not based upon appearing flawless or on who or how we were in the past. We become role models based upon our journey toward self-improvement and our determination to never give up on ourselves.