You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship with a Woman

You just have a seat and grab a brew.

Sigh.

As a man, I am going to walk with you through the most debilitating pain that you will ever experience in life. I am speaking on the dreadful agony and the shame of what it means to fall in love with an emotionally abusive woman. An emotionally abusive woman is an evil genius, who steals your heart through guile, only to stomp on it and blame you for her own deception. You know emotional abuse, if you know what it means for the love of your life to curl up next to you, yet you still feel alone.

To the uninitiated, no words can describe the deception of unrequited love. To know emotional abuse is to live through it. Emotional abuse is a game of confusion - where you are merely a puppet who is controlled and forced to dance to the ringleader's beat. When the music stops, you will be discarded at the drop of a hat and thrown into the trash heap. Shortly thereafter, she will quickly find another puppet - date to dance to her melody.

Was it ever about you, you ask?

Is this new puppet a better man, you ask?

It was never about you, my friend.

And that is what is so devastating.

You were never a human being - with feelings. You are but a machine, and are only wired to either perfectly meet her demands, or face death in the proverbial scrap heap. This is a zero-sum game, however, where your master makes and breaks the rules according to her benefit. If you follow the rules like a perfectly well oiled machine, you will be despised and bludgeoned into oblivion for not being a "real man." If you buck the system, you will be emotionally destroyed as a total dunce, who just can't get anything right. If you shut up and take it, only to blow a gasket later, you are a complete failure as a communicator.

Do you think I am playing?

Why don't you attempt to hold a conversation with this menace?

The emotionally abusive woman is a case of Arrested Development: imagine holding court with a two-year old. All attempts at reason will degenerate into an "I know you are, but what am I?" tango of death, where you are blasted into outer orbit as an utter nincompoop. The rage is little more than a temper tantrum, which may last for hours on end, if not days. When the she-terror grows tired, of course, she will immediately forget the incident and demand that you move on. As with anything, she plays by her own rules and enforces law that you love her unconditionally. By unconditionally love, she means that she can do whatever she wants.

Your feelings be damned.

Don't you remember? You are a machine, jerk, and have no feelings.

There is no way to win this game.

You are dealing with a complete parasite and master manipulator, whose sole purpose in life seems to feed off and destroy all that is good within you. Like a roach, she has learned to cope and survive through evil and never dies. Like a predator on the Serengeti, she stalks her kill and preys upon the weak. Her goal is to isolate you, feed you her poison and completely destroy you -- for no reason.

She, of course, calls this love. This is sick.

Think of your many arguments. Certainly, she is at her most obnoxious when you are ill, tired, busy, and above all, weak. During these times, she is on the attack, and ready to fight until hell freezes over. When hell freezes over, she will fight you on skates and use the blades to slash into your heart. In response to your own self-defense, she will return serve, blame you as the aggressor, and cry victim.

False police report filed against you - when you tried to hold her back from beating you into a bloody pulp?

Check.

Restraining orders filed against you - when you wouldn't consider going anywhere near this woman in your right mind?

Check.

Nobody believes you?

Check.

You cannot make sense out of nonsense, and should not deal with this freak upon any level. I feel for you, brother, if this lunatic has led you toward the altar and the delivery room: even more strong-arm tactics to control you with, my dear.

The game, of course, is never over, until she says so. Like clockwork, she will vanish into thin air and away from the alleged "man of her dreams" -- when you see her game for what it is and there is nothing else left for you to give.

Silly Robot.

You belong in the trash heap.

You Are in An Emotionally Abusive Relationship with a Woman, Sources:

Kofi Bofah: She is Just Not that into You. Ten Signs that She is Not Interested

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier: A Shrink for Men

Dr. Sam Vaknin: Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited

Shari Schreiber: Gettin' Better - Articles