You Are Now!

Most of us are always waiting for something. Some are waiting for a promotion at work, to finish school, to find their dream husband or wife, to get a job, to loose weight, to gain weight, etc. But some wait for other things like for summer to start, for winter to end, etc. And some wait for more dark things like for a relative to pass away or for a divorce to happen or even for someone to get deported.

The examples are indefinite. There are people who keep waiting for the summer to start working out or people who decide that their life will start when they inherit money or when they land that dream job or when they move somewhere else. Now they use that exact sentence "my life will start when. . ." I completely disagree with that because your life started when you were born and your life is happening right now. It is not happening tomorrow or next week or next month or next year. It is not happening in another time or place. Your life is happening right now and every second that passes that you are not living is time wasted.

There is no problem of course about waiting for something. The only problem is that sometimes we forget to live our life that is happening right now and we focus on what is going to happen in the future. Some are even more ridiculous and focus on things that may never happen. For instance someone people are waiting to win the lottery and they play that lottery every week once or twice. They keep lamenting their luck for not winning the lottery and forget about life that is happening now.

But some people don't look to the future. In fact, they are not waiting for anything. They look in the past. Many people live in their past experience. Some are happy how the 50s, 60, 70s or 80s were and they continue on living based on these times and refuse to move on. Some stopped living since their significant other passed away and decided to become zombies. Some people, especially immigrants, live in heart where their country is and are extremely unhappy about their present country. All these people are basically just not living their life.

Moreover, there are people who can not live without having someone in their life and "waiting" for that special someone thereby ignoring themselves and ignoring working on themselves. Thereby, they are equating their happiness only when they are with someone and of course the very famous "you complete me" works well with this notion. However, it is completely wrong because if there is someone out there that completes you then you are consequently incomplete which is not true because you are born complete. However, there can be someone who syncs with you but it doesn't mean that they complete you. You are who you are and you should be happy with who you are. If you are not happy with who you are as a person then you should work on yourself first before you involved yourself in a relationship to make yourself happy because that will probably end in a disaster.

The main point basically is that you should always try to live your life no matter how terrible it could be at times. You should always try to see the good part in the bad and not look for a way to escape by dreaming of somewhere in the future. I am not against having hopes and dreams but I am against not living your moment or not loving yourself to the point where you ignore your present and your own self. You don't have to have your dream job right now to be happy and it does not have to be sunny California to be happy. You don't have to be rich to be happy. You don't have to be skinny to be happy. You don't have to have someone in your life to be happy. You should try to make your own happiness right now because your life was not yesterday or next year or somewhere else. Your life is here and it is now!