Young People: How You Can Discuss Sex with Your Parents

Most young people today reserve their parents as the last people on earth they would speak to about sex. But you may not realize you are in a real dilemma if you don't speak to them about sex, because they may be just the ones who have the best answers for you that will help you out throughout life! But if you are still nervous about speaking to them, here is a nice guideline for you to use.

Don't worry about what they will think of you - it is only natural to have feelings about sex. Do not worry about how they will react, either, because they were young once just like you. In fact, they may just feel as awkward as you do discussing this subject! It may be that your parents haven't approached you about the subject because they are more nervous than you are! So go ahead and broach the subject right away, and get much relief over your feelings.

First of all, simply state your fear right upfront. Avoid beating around the bush, as this can only end up in your nerves building up so much that you never even get it out. Say something like: "I've been really hesitant about bringing this up, because I've been afraid of what you might think..." This is a great way to start this delicate conversation with your parents, because it lets them know that you are nervous in talking with them to begin with, and need help with dealing with this issue.

Go ahead and tell them why you have come to them. Say something like, "I have a question, and I'd rather have you answer it than anyone else." This makes your parent feel that you trust them, and they are best able to help you. State the issue, and let the discussion begin.

Be careful not to get defensive if your parent says something you don't like. Keep in mind that they are no doubt nervous as well, and may not know what to say right away. Listen respectfully, and ask questions. They want you to get through this challenge in life successfully, otherwise you would not have turned to them. Remember to leave the door open even at the end of the discussion for future discussions. Ask your parent: "Can I ask you more questions in the future if I need to?"

Once the discussion begins, you may feel very awkward and want it to end. But go ahead and get through it, because it can be one of the best discussions you've ever had, and can help you control these feelings about sex until you are ready for marriage. It's going to be a long, bumpy ride through the coming years until you are ready to marry, so please go ahead and accept your parent's help!