Younger Men Who Deceive Older Women
First let me start out by saying, only an older woman who is sure of her self, and has a well intact self-esteem should be even attempting to date a younger man. This is the first step in her avoiding being taken advantage of. If she is confident and self-assured her eyes will be wide open, and she will see things clearly. This will help her separate the honest younger man who really does enjoy and want an older woman, and the one who is there for a free meal ticket.
Another important step would be to find out as much information about the younger man as possible. If he has had a lot of brief, and unsuccessful relationships with older women, he probably isn't a good bet. He probably quickly took what he could, and ran not walked to the nearest exit.
If the younger man seems to always be out of money, or conveniently forgetting his wallet a lot when you go out, chances are you are a meal ticket, and a meal ticket only. If he seems to hint around a lot about things he needs, along with a pathetic look of. poor me, I just can't afford it, well you get the idea. I bet if you wait long enough his pretense of not wanting to take advantage will go right out the window. Down the road he will be more than happy to accept anything you bring his way.
If he seems to be a little bit too willing to do everything you want. In a real relationship partner's give and take, if he is acting more like a puppy that rolls over and plays dead when you ask him, he's probably not being honest about why he is with you. He is probably just trying to please you so he can stay around long enough to get as much as possible out of you while he can.
If there is a really big difference in your ages, a woman should start to wonder what's up. He is either in the need for a mother, or hoping you're going to kick the bucket before he's to old to enjoy, your money. It's only in rare cases that when there's a huge age difference that the two individuals are soul mates who were just born in the wrong time.
Last but not least, which is the clincher for older women, is that he is too romantic. I know you think no man could ever be to romantic, however, there's a difference between romancing your sweetheart and drowning her false gestures. A younger man is very well aware that older women especially, like to be romanced. So, in order for him to get in your good graces and distract you from what he's really there for, he may be so romantic, you can't see straight. That's exactly what he wants. He is also aware that romance is like a drug, if he gives you enough of it, you may never want to give it or him up. Ergo an older woman finds herself with a live-in Valentino she can support until the day she dies.
In the end it's up to the older woman to keep her head, and guard her heart, so when and if that younger man comes along, she make a clear, and healthy decision on whether that younger man she is attracted to, is there for her, or just what she can give him!
*Please not that this article does exclude the very well aware "Cougar" who knows what she is paying for, and is happy just the way it is!
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Post a Comment(more...)(and you're right, after a short time, he didn't have ANY problems asking for and expecting me to be his walking ATM).
My support included not just paying his way when we went out, but also buying him necessities and I even found myself paying some of his bills.
But guys like this know just how long they can work a target and they have an uncanny sense of when they've got all they're likely to get out of a woman. Somehow they know just when to move on, and it's usually just before the point of reckoning.
In the end, I discovered him cheating on me with a woman in her early 60's. He was literally living off me while romancing her: setting up his next meal ticket.
Before I kicked his butt out, I wrote the woman, alerting her to his many great charms as well as warning her against what I had come to realize as his ulterior motives.
I don't think she believed me at first, because she kept on seeing him, even though he swore to me he had put an end to their a
(to continue...) I truly believe he has unresolved mother issues in there some where...and she most likely trained him to stay a dependent little boy, who, after her death, naturally looked for a replacement mommy to full-fill his emotional and financial needs. His employment history is telling as well: he hasn't managed to hold down a job for more than two years in the last two decades. He had always had his parents to prop him up through his those long spells of unemployment.
A true Lothario from the start, he was unemployed the whole time we were together and I literally paid for everything.
Despite all the red flags and that little voice in my head warning me about ulterior motives: I found myself utterly enchanted by his many charms, all the time and attention he lavished on me, and of course, more than eager to help him out, after hearing all his sad stories.
Even though I knew better, I found myself loaning or giving him money on many, many occasions (and you'r
Thank you for validating my thoughts with your article. No... certainly not every younger man is out to deceive or rip off his older lady-love...but just because we now have an emerging trend towards older-female-younger-male relationships, doesn't mean the proverbial gigolo isn't still alive and well and working this newly socially acceptable angle to his full advantage.
I was involved with one such man who was actually my age (chronologically - we're both in our mid-40's) but he is a perpetual adolescent in most other ways.
As our relationship progressed and he revealed things about his past to me, I began to realize he had quite a long history of dating women who were at least a decade older than he, and that he tended towards those in their middle 50's, with grown children who wouldn't compete with him for time, attention or money.
I also learned that he had lived at home with his parents until he was 38 and his mother died. I truly believe he has unresolved mother
donna: What you have obviously done & experienced is not everyone elses's experience. Perhaps if you figure out why you are so bitter, you would see things differently.
Cougars are out in full force in Chicago. Just go to Michigan Avenue. All Day.