Your 5 Tips How-to on Finding Someone Special

Singleness is a part of life that some seek to pass through faster than a speeding bullet. But every person experiences singleness to some extent before they date the person they will eventually marry. As you walk the singleness road, you need to know the best way to land on the path to finding your special someone.

Tip #1: Know Yourself

You can't really find that someone special until you find and know yourself well. According to Focus on the Family's Boundless Magazine website, one interviewee expressed doubt about what the future held in more ways than just romantically. That's par for the course with many who are single and searching for a mate.

To find someone special you need to first find and know yourself. Figure out what you want from your life. Grow as a person professionally and personally, as these actions will help you know yourself better and expand your horizons for meeting others.

Tip #2: Limit Adulation

First-time meetings can have the tendency to make someone appear "perfect" but we all know no one is perfect. The christian singing group known as the Barlow Girls -- 3 single sisters -- stressed in an interview with Growth Trac that they don't want to idolize a dating partner or focus solely on that objective in life, as it isn't healthy.

Finding someone special won't happen like Hollywood movies; it will take work and effort on your part -- and it will require you take off rose-colored glasses to the less attractive side of potential mates and not brush them aside. It will also

Tips #3: Seek a Mentor

The Stanford Graduate School of Business encourages the use of career coaches to get professional lives back on track or ship-shape. Take their advice and apply it to your personal life. Find a successful relationship mentor or coach to help you move forward with your desire to find someone special.

If you are a Christian that would include a talk with your pastor, youth leader or Sunday school teacher. They can share words of encouragement and advice, as well as direct you to someone in your church that can aid with single group activities and meet-ups. Other religious affiliations have similar resources available to church members, too.

Tip #4: Pursue Your Passion

When you are caught up doing what you love the most you will be less likely to reflect on what you don't have in your life. You will also exude an energy and optimism that is attractive and works like a magnet, drawing others to you.

In addition, you will be surrounded by other people who have an interest in something that really motivates you personally. Sharing a passion for a cause or activity can help you find someone special. But remember, this is a first step: make sure the other passions in both of your lives match up too.

Tip #5: Keep It Real

One of the worst things that can happen in your search for someone special is putting on a front in order to meet someone special. Those who congregate in bars or attend parties just to find that "right one" often leave with someone but regret it soon thereafter. Keep it real in your search for someone special by frequenting places where being yourself is what it is all about. Ask a friend to rein you in if you start being false to someone you just met. Others want someone sincere too, so keeping it real on your end may prompt them to follow suit as well.

Resources:

Growthtrac.com

Boundless Magazine

Stanford Graduate School of Business: A Career Coach Can Help Keep Your Professional Life in Shape