Your Boyfriend Has Just Suggested a Threesome

Your boyfriend thinks it would be a great idea to have a threesome. He may even semi-logical reasons for a threesome, such as how much fun it would be, how much it would spice up the relationship and it would be a great way to break in a new king-sized mattress.

When he's done explaining all of the reasons why, you then say, "Okay. When I find the right guy, I'll let you know and we can all have a threesome." If your boyfriend is happy with the suggestion, keep the boyfriend for now. If the boyfriend becomes upset and insists on a woman as the third member of the sexual triangle (or whatever other position he has in mind), get ready to dump him -- even if he's Charlie Sheen with Adonis DNA.

What's the Problem?

It's not the sex part that's cringe-inspiring for most people when they contemplate a threesome. Getting caught up in the passion of the moment seems like a lot of fun. But it's not so much fun having to face that third person the next day. This stranger not only got to see you naked and/or having an orgasm, but being naked and/or having an orgasm with your boyfriend. That could be a picture you never want anyone to see, let alone remember every time the both of you meet.

Also, there's a very high chance that the third person may have a sexually transmitted disease. Or, your boyfriend has just been diagnosed with an STD and wants to try and put the blame on someone else. (Hey - weirder things have happened). But also, how could you arrange the spacing for the sex acts? Your bedroom may not be large enough for three people, let alone three people in bed. You could point this out to your boyfriend as tactfully as possible. If he simultaneously suggests renting a motel room with a king-size mattress and drools, dump him.

Is He Serious?

Many times, boyfriends are only joking when they suggest a threesome. Some boyfriends like to see their girlfriends bothered or they may try and seriously suggest a threesome as a practical joke. It's a guy's sense of humor. ("Hey, Joe - I asked Jill if she wanted a threesome and you shoulda seen the look on her face!")

If the boyfriend has been drinking, taking any recreational drugs, is on a new medication or is even loopy on decongestants, than the odds are really high that he's not serious - he's only high. If you know that he watches porn movies and you are okay with that, then he's probably just wondering aloud what it would be like to work in a porn movie. As long as he doesn't bring anyone home and set up a camera, you are fine.

But if he is serious, then you need to re-think this relationship. Just why isn't having sex with just you enough? Why risk the potential humiliation, jealousies and STDs from participating in a threesome? If he still insists, drop him like a hot potato. He cares nothing about you.