Your Husband is No Longer Interested in You?

Once a psychologist, in comparing life to theatre, made the following remark, "love, for the women, is itself the drama; for the men, it is the intermission." I think the comparison is fair. For the man, love is a very powerful impulse, greatly sexual in character, all speed and desire, and yet quickly over with. Afterward his thoughts are drawn to other matters and his wife feels that she has been forsaken. I am speaking, of course, of men who are very viral. Other men, who are interested only in love, are hardly to be so considered.

I remember a beautiful short story, whose author I cannot recall. It described a couple back home from the honeymoon. For several weeks the lovers had not been out of each other's company; they were completely each other's/ and then, the next day, the husband heads back to his office. The young sits down on a kitchen stool and dissolves n tears, "now, I am all alone, I am all alone!" one day, so we hope, this young wife will get up from the stool and regain an interest in life. If so, it will be because everything she will do, she will do out of love for her husband. Out of love for him she will cook, she will sweep the floor; she will wash the dishes...the reason for this is that love, for a woman, constitutes the whole of life.

A man, on the other hand, takes an interest in his work for the work itself, for the technical problems which have to be solved in it, for the competition in his profession, and for the attainment of success. Love, well, he will think about that when he is with his wife back at home. Even then there will be a difference; the wife has an emotional need which often the husband fails to recognize. She needs to hear tender words; she needs to go out with her husband, to share excitement with him as they admire something, to experience deep oneness with him in the silence of a moment of exaltation. For her love means a permanent, high level of affection. This is why she would like her husband always to be with her. She counts the hours he gives her, the Sundays he spends at home, the evenings he takes her out to the show. This is, for her, the way in which love is expressed. If her husband goes off to the ball game she complains, "you don't love me anymore!" if he shows interest in another matter it is because he is no longer interested in her!